There’s a New Term for Guys with Beer Guts; Kelly Shibari Calls Them BHM’s

Kelly Shibari writes on www.fleshbot.com – There’s so much attention lavished on the lovely larger ladies of porn. There aren’t as many sites as mainstream porn, but if you want to find BBW porn, it’s not hard to find these days.

But what about the chubby hetero guys?

When most people hear about chubby porn performers, bears are what comes to mind first. The gay adult industry embraces (and them some) chubby dudes, hairy or not. But I know that a large percentage of my fanbase is actually my personal preference – chubby, fat, cuddly, straight dudes!

Much like how BBWs were first depicted in porn, BHMs (Big Handsome Men) are usually the comic relief. In most parodies that feature larger guys, they are usually the non-sex role. For someone like me, who likes seeing a big guy get down and dirty, it’s definitely been a lady-boner-killer when I see a good looking big guy on camera…and then he doesn’t get naked, much less have sex.

About three years into the industry, I was asked if I would play Roseanne in the RoseanneXXX porn parody. My first question was, “Who’s playing Dan?” I’ve always thought that John Goodman was a good looking guy. He’s certainly high on my hug-meter (which is a very important scale in my world, as I take my hugs, much like handshakes, seriously).

Initially, they said, they had contemplated asking a popular male performer, someone I’ve already worked with several times, to wear a fat suit. But then they came across Tim von Swine.

His name was von Swine. “Count me in!!!” And he was awesome as my Dan in the parody, and ever since. Tim has been my best friend and industry partner for three years now.

Tim is an award-winning director, a multi-nominated performer, and has recently started a new project – Swiney’s Pigpen – much to the universal cheers of fat dudes everywhere.

An accomplished POV shooter and performer (who actually holds his own camera during the POV shoot, which is a huge difference from many of the so-called POV performers out today) for Mike John Productions (which is released by Jules Jordan Video) and many other companies throughout his career, Tim’s side project is kind of epic.

Sometimes by himself, sometimes with his tag-team partner Angus, Swiney’s Pigpen / Whale Cam showcases chubby dudes getting it on with some of the hottest female performers in the business. In addition, he’s also open to bringing in other fat guys as well into the mix. Every once in a while, he’ll even bring in a BBW performer or two. He doesn’t discriminate – if they’re pretty and they turn him on, they’re considered.

In his own words:

All of this stuff was shot to bring about an honest and dirty approach to making xxx scenes w/ plus sized dudes that didn’t involve being a chump, or having food thrown all over the place or having to only bang some Euro granny that I know any English other than ‘cum in mouth, yes?’.. Fuck that, I can lay a good one on these chicks when I’m having a good day, and I realized that years ago, but it’s not like anyone is gonna hire chubby/beer-bellied guys for regular scenes. No way – people in xxx HATE guys like me and I’ll tell you why;..

Anytime a fat guy shows up to do something and pulls it off, people automatically assume that it can’t be all that hard to do, because after all, he’s overweight and clearly can’t be too skilled. And if he DOES pull it off, then he obviously had help, or knew some secrets, or some other miraculous way of figuring it out because fat guys only care about being lazy and possess zero talent…

So with all this in mind, I’m moving forward w/ my ‘Whale Cam’ endeavors for many selfish reasons obviously, but to also, and I really mean this, try and put on the map the first attempts at legitimizing heavy set guys tearing apart xxx stars like no one else before. I doubt this will ever lead to any real doors opening for anyone, but hope it helps people make their own stuff because they know they can and that there’s no reason to be ashamed of being overweight and horny.

That last sentence – “there’s no reason to be ashamed of being overweight and horny” – is so very important. Horny is horny. Porno is porno – it should help get people off. When my own experience says that people are starting to get tired of an over-accentuated fantasy, full of performers that guys and girls can’t find accessible, there is a place for all kinds of porn. And when people can find performers in situations they can relate to, but in a fantasy porno setting, it can open doors to being comfortable with your own size, your own sexuality – and your own body as a whole.

Plus, there’s the whole “I like watching Tim have sex with other pretty ladies coz I’m a voyeuristic perv” thing, and my penchant for group sex (durrrrrr, I did Overloaded, which Tim shot, yeah, that’s a given). It’s a win all around.

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