Update: She’s Written a Book: Monica Mayhem’s Naked Truths

www.smh.com.au – Australia’s only porn star, Monica Mayhem, estimates she’s had sex on camera with around 100 men, but she admits she’s lost count.

The 31-year-old Brisbane-born blonde, who has never revealed her real name, turned her back on the corporate career she had been pursing as a teenager to make money the quickest, easiest way she could think of – taking off her clothes.

She started “dancing” at a club in London and later went to the US with the owner.

Three days later she met an agent who talked her into doing hard core porn.

She shot her first flick in December 2000 and over the last nine years she’s notched up more than 400 films and has released a range of sex toys. She also scored a small part as the girlfriend of Samantha’s promiscuous neighbour in the Sex and the City movie.

The LA-based actress, who admits contracting chlamydia and gonorrhoea was a price she paid for her chosen career, has now turned author.

Her book, Absolute Mayhem, reveals details about her rough childhood, rebellious teenage years and move into the US porn industry.

Q: How many men have you had sex with?

A: You kind of lose count. I’ve worked with the same guys over and over so it could be 50 and the total could be 100. People ask me this and I’m confused about it. I know that’s silly because you should probably know these things. But when you’re working you just don’t really think about it.

Q: Tell me about your childhood with an alcoholic, abusive mother and an absent father.

A: It was very traumatic. I had no self-esteem whatsoever. The kids at school don’t help when they’re making fun of you for being poor or ugly. Just little things that really hurt when you don’t feel loved as a child by your parent, and your other parent’s not around. It’s very hard to deal with and I guess that makes you rebel, and I was very rebellious as a teenager and I guess I still am. Doing what I’m doing is a pretty far out thing to do.

A: In your book you say you are “promiscuous by nature”. What does that mean?

A: I wanted to have sex from a really young age and I can’t explain why that is. And I did sleep with a fair amount of guys at a young age, starting from age 14. I’ve always been one to show off my body and kind of flaunt it. I’m a bit of an exhibitionist.

Q: How has working in the porn industry affected your relationships in the real world?

A. It’s very hard to have a relationship definitely, being in this industry. I’ve tried, many times. I was married, that was around the time when my career was taking off really big, he didn’t like that at all. He did some porn, he was more of a director. Guys get very jealous and controlling and they just can’t deal with it really, I mean, you have to be a pretty strong man to be able to have your wife or girlfriend go out and do something like this for a living.

Q: Does that make you sad?

A: Yeah it does and I just keep thinking you know, well I’m not going to be doing it forever so I’m just going to remain single until I know that I’m happy where I’m at in my career and I’m done shooting and filming and then hopefully I will find someone.

Q: Does working in porn affect your sex life?

A: It used to affect it. I was shooting all the time and obviously your body can only take so much. So I’d go home and I wouldn’t want to have sex … but having sex off camera is a lot better, obviously, because we’re being told what to do, crazy positions and places and it’s just not reality.

Q: You say you are also a witch. How has practising Wicca helped you?

A: It helps me to stay grounded and it helps me to cope with things a lot better … it’s not like you see in the Hollywood movies, it’s actually just a more free and naturally way of living … it’s all about mother nature and the universe.

Q: How has the porn industry changed over the last decade?

A: It’s gone from like a $US12 billion a year industry to like a $US6 billion a year industry (in the last two or three years) to continuing to go on a downward spiral. Anyone can get free porn on the internet … they’re not able to pay us as much, they’re not shooting as much, the market is over-saturated … it’s too much. That could cause the industry to shut down eventually.”

Q: What sorts of misconceptions do people have about the porn industry?

A: Just that we’re re all stupid, we’re all on drugs, you know, we have no other talent or other skills. I’ve known brain surgeons from Russia who’ve come in to do porn because they make more money in the States than they do in their own country. Or there’s girls paying their way through college or trying to support their kids. There’s all kinds of reasons people get in the business.

Q: Has what people want from their porn movies changed over time?

A: The main thing that concerns me is the amount of young girl porn, the girls that look really young. They kind of make them to look like teenagers and that’s a bit scary, you know the whole paedophilia issue. But then it’s probably better that they’re watching it on the movies rather than going out and acting out their fantasies on the street. There’s the foot fetish thing which is huge. I have so many foot fetish fans … what’s increased is the amount of alternative porn, where the girls have tattoos and piercings and stuff.

Q: You say porn is helpful. Why is that?

A: I get a lot of emails from couples saying `you saved my marriage. From watching your movies it really helped spice things up and we’ve learnt so much’. I give advice to a lot of different people as well … there’s also a lot of really depressed guys and girls out there who are so lonely they can’t find a sexual partner and they turn to porn and then they end up thanking you for making their day and even just replying to them puts a smile on their face.

Q: Is there anything that you enjoy doing in your films?

A: I love doing girls. Girls on camera’s always fun because the director usually lets us do what we want. When your shooting with a guy the director is positioning you so you can see the hard core action so it’s not always comfortable. And the three-ways are also fun too.

Q: What are some of the more unusual things you’ve done on camera?

A: Can we talk about tamakeri? It’s a Japanese fetish where you basically kick the guy in the balls as hard as you can to make that slapping sound and that’s what they get off on. I kind of did it just to say that I did it and to experience it cause I thought that is so bizarre that anyone would want to go through that. But usually it’s the type of guys who’ve been tormented at school maybe and they want to be tortured by beautiful woman and it turns them on. The sneezing fetish; they made me sneeze, I had to sniff pepper or stick a toothpick up my nose and then blow my nose and that’s a fetish. I’ve had my foot in places that it should never be.”

Q: How much longer do you see yourself making porn movies?

A: I’ve been thinking about that lately, and I mean you can work until you are 80 … there’s a niche market for everything.

from www.news.com.au – LOOKS like that Sex and the City role hasn’t yet translated into the mainstream film career Brisbane-lass-turned-porn-star Monica Mayhem (pictured) was hankering for.

The only flick Miss Mayhem (real name Caroline Pickering) has appeared in this year, following her brief but graphic turn as the first lover of Samantha’s (Kim Cattrall) neighbour Dante, is one called MILF and Cookies.

As unfamiliar as Confidential is with this title, it doesn’t seem to have made it to Indooroopilly Shoppingtown. This won’t stop the international blue movie mistress from getting onto Triple M today to thumb her nose at the brass at Kenmore High who expelled her in the early ’90s.

Blog and video: Emily Everywhere talks to Monica Mayhem

After swapping an office job with an oil trader in London for a greasy pole at a strip club called Spearmint Rhino, Monica went on to make 400-plus adult movies. Thus the self-described “very rebellious” youth comes to be part of the Cage’s new “I Proved You Wrong” segment. The school brass might argue she proved them right.

While her chosen work is supported by friends, her family (apart from her brother) disapprove, Monica told AIPdaily.com last year. The 31-year-old claimed she was a fight-prone youth who had a “rough upbringing”.

“(My mother) was very cold, which in turn, made me very hard to get to know,” she told the industry website.

The Cage plan to show Monica a photo of Ian Skippen with his old moustache to see how he rates in the potential porn star stakes. Add a pair of jogging shoes and a big chunky calculator watch and he’s got it.

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